• Jan posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    Larina, I know the humiliation! I think many sex addicts were sexually abused as children. My addict hubby was abused by his grandfather. I believe he has had struggles with sexual identity…as well as compulsive acting out behavior in both of his marriages and in his pervious job. It is a miracle that he has avoided serious diseases. They do…[Read more]

    • Jan, I did not have the exact words for why I am also staying for my child, for awhile. I just knew it is Not co dependency. Yes…also resolving to limit his unchecked influence over daughter. Yep..that’s all.

  • Jan posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Angela, My advice would be to run and don’t look back. That kind of trust breach is nearly impossible to heal. If his actions are beyond his conscious control or ability to explain, they will never be subject to reason or restraint. Just GO NOW before you get any further tangled in the mess. You won’t regret it.

  • Jan posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you Angela. It has been so hard…and sometimes I have doubted whether staying was the right thing to do. He is very addicted as well as mentally disordered. It has been very difficult not to become infected with his disease. I feel like I have absorbed so much toxicity just trying to protect our son….deflected a lot too but it’s almost…[Read more]

  • I also just joined this group and website! I have been struggling with these issues with my husband for 18 of the last 20 years. Back in the day when I first realized he had a serious problem, all I could really find information about was SA and BPD. I found some relief in a BPD forum but zero anything helpful from the SA & S-Anon…[Read more]

    • Thank you Angela. It has been so hard…and sometimes I have doubted whether staying was the right thing to do. He is very addicted as well as mentally disordered. It has been very difficult not to become infected with his disease. I feel like I have absorbed so much toxicity just trying to protect our son….deflected a lot too but it’s almost…[Read more]

    • Yes! 19 years here too. I tell myself I am staying only until 11 year old daughter doesn’t have to do custody with sociopath, ugh. Slick and sick they are

  • Jan became a registered member 10 months, 3 weeks ago